“Falling in love” does, in fact, have a sense of motion associated with it, which is why this term exists. It’s like our depths are naturally in resonance with the depths of another and our normal experiential range feels that deep gravitational pull. Since our own depths underpin all of our daily conscious experiences, all of those experiences feel that deep resonance. The motion we rightfully call “falling” seems to bubble up through every experience we have and the normal solidity of our sense of self becomes more transparent and we “fall” through its dissolving support into the newly revealed depths.
I felt that instantly when I first met my wife. I just knew that we were related. We “fell” for many years and at some point long ago, energetically reached an equilibrium. As I see it, our depths are no longer experientially deep. Rather they are very present for us in our every day lives – as we are in orbit around each other like binary stars. That feel of falling is no longer experienced since we are in proximity and there is no longer a distance over which to travel, or “fall”. We are in communion and that communion provides the solidity of being close; we are a “We”.
This sense of communion, I believe, is the same with family. I loved my parents but it was rare for the actual experience of “I love you” to arise in my consciousness. I was in their orbit from the day I showed up here, and perhaps before. 
Yet when they died, my connection to them could not have been closer to “me” but what I was present to was sadness.
They where no longer in proximity, and the gravity that held us in relative orbit – a sense of We – was gone. So my thought here is that the sadness was the experience of the loss of their gravity – the loss of our We-ness. In that loss, part of me became adrift from our anchoring in that We and as a result I am less connected to the broader collective We.
I have worked with many people during my professional life and, with a few exceptions, I felt fond of all of them when it was time to move on. On this basis it seems to me that the more time we spend with others, the more of that deep and natural “We” tuning works on us, whether we are conscious of it or not. That type of coming into deep tuning does not feel like “falling” due to its slow pace but we do end up in a deeper level of communal resonance. I have witnessed this when tragedy has struck former co-workers and I feel a deep empathy arise and naturally reach out to them. I feel their loss of We-ness. We are all related and our experience of that is, at least in part, a matter of our ability to experience our own depths and to sense those similar frequencies in others. That sensibility allows us to touch their depths and know them “where they are”, or more precisely “where We are”.
It is true that we do naturally resonate more easily with some people than with others right off the bat. The co-mingling of frequencies occurs on an unfathomable number of wavelengths and the ones that we tend to inhabit are just closer to some people’s than others. With these sorts of connections we do have an easier access to the very deep spaces but given our common ancestry, in growing out of this planet, ultimately we arise from a common source so the closer our experience comes to that source, the more We experience blending into a singular I.
So perhaps love is the experience of moving towards the We and sadness is the experience of moving away from the We. The experience of We itself has less movement – thus feels more like an I – as our collective gravity has us in close proximity. The greater the velocity in either direction, the more relative impact we experience as an individual. We are moving towards a collective We or moving away from it. Either way, it is simply the movement back and forth of a very broad waveform, which we experience and have named Love or Sadness depending on the direction.
Very inspiring Justin. I get what you are talking about and am appreciating the depth you are bringing to the subject of love. Quite some years ago I went through a period where I ‘fell in love – like head over heels – as we say three times successively in a short period of time. I will never forget driving in my car and realizing that this notion of feeling love, was something that I was creating it wasn’t being given to me necessarily by someone else. This becomes apparent when it happens multiple times. So now I am ‘getting’ that perhaps not even my ‘me’ was creating it, that perhaps I was for that period of time simply riding a wave frequency?! I sure hope that doesn’t sound like I am minimizing you and your wife’s love, as I totally believe it the ‘true love’ shared between two very fortunate people who have access to it together. Basically my take is that both your example and mine are about a mysticism that weaves itself around and through us in a myriad of ways.
I don’t know how each of us is energetically connected to others but it is pretty obvious that some connections are inherently deep and others are not. So there’s less distance to “fall” with many, though falling can still occur. It just stops sooner.
I also think that my commitment to my wife arose from that same deep level of recognition. I knew we were related and declared it to be so in our wedding vows. Those types of commitments (Choices) do seem to bring that very depth “up” into the arena where our consciousness is ordinarily focused and that creates a container, of sorts, in which she and I relate to each other here in the “everyday” based on what is arising from those depths.